I saw "Guys and Dolls" last night with my sisters and my dad at my old high school. They did a great job-it's not my favorite musical but I really enjoyed it, they are great with comedy. One of the songs is called "Marry the Man Today," and a couple lines caught my eye (um, ear?):
"Marry the man today, and change his ways tomorrow....give him your hand today, and save the fist for after...."
I think that going into a marriage with the idea that your partner is going to change for you, or going into marriage with the intent to change your partner's behavior might the worst possible mistake. I'm marrying Ryan with the knowledge that he's going to be super irritating at times (he refers to this as him being hilarious), and that he will act like a 12 year old sometimes. This is one of the things I love about him, I wouldn't want him to change that! Of course there are things that we both need to work on (me with taming my anxiety for one), but I am marrying him exactly the way he is with no expectation for major changes.
But the "save the fist for after" is funny, isn't it?
So what do you think, ladies? Are you planning on giving your man an overhaul once the rings are on, or do you think that trying to change someone is a mistake?