Thursday, February 11, 2010

Making me Crazy

Ryan has this side job that is driving me bat sh*t crazy.

He picked up the extra job (on top of his 40 hour + week full time job) because my hours got cut at work 6 weeks ago. My hours are back up to 40/week, but he has to see this job through. I understand that he's doing this for our future, to make sure that in this crazy economy where we'll both be job hunting in the very near future that we'll have a hefty savings in place. I understand that, and I have a lot of respect for it, because he just so happens to be right. Having those savings in place will make our lives so much easier this year. It's a long term gratification thing and not a short term one.

But this side job p*sses me off. I'm not mad at Ryan in any way - the whole situation angers me. I'm angry that my hours got cut back and that he had to do this in the first place. And I'm angry that it interferes with the limited time we have with each other.

We've reached this place of agreeing to disagree about it...he's doing it, I support why he's doing it, but I hate that he's doing it. A glimpse of marriage, maybe? Supporting him, understanding the motivation behind the action, but not agreeing?


  1. This is a tough place to be in. I understand where you are coming from and I think it is so important that you support him because all he is doing is trying to better your future. It sucks at the moment but it will pay off in the end! You will thank him later :)

  2. Oh yeah, that will happen sometimes for sure. I already shared about my frustration with Mr Fix It's decision to let his family stay in our house on our wedding night and we have to stay in a hotel when I wanted it to be vice versa. I totally don't agree with it, but I understand how he's trying to be accommodating and hospitable so I am going along with it even though it irritates the hell out of me. Doesn't really compare to your situation but same type of issue.

    I know it's hard, but just keep telling yourself that it is only temporary :)

  3. Yup I think its definitely a glimpse into married life. Hang in there. I know the distance is hard, especially when the little time you do have becomes even more limited. Mrs. Beever is right, its only temporary and soon ALL of this will be over and you will be together in the same location!


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