Things I Wish I'd Known Before We Got Married, by Gary Chapman.
Same guy who wrote the Five Love Languages. Most "self-help" books make me feel like crap about my marriage-all I do is pick out the stuff I'm doing wrong. Not helpful. But this book was quite the confidence booster; I picked out lots of stuff that Ryan and I OWN at! Like the chapter on "solving disagreements without arguing." Granted, we're human and we argue, but we aren't hateful to each other about it. We're both totally fine with "apologizing being a sign of strength" and that we "married into each other's families". Domination!
The book honestly wasn't that helpful, but I did get from it a sense that we started our marriage off well, that our foundation is good. So...nothing I didn't know all ready.
Though Ryan still thinks the "love languages" are comical.
Also, the author comes across as kind of an *ss to his wife.
Are you a Gary Chapman fan? Do self-help books send you into a downward spiral of "my marriage is DOOMED!"?
I like the five love languages....I think they are somewhat present in every relationship and it us important to know how your partner feels loved! I haven't read this one, but I've been stuck on this other book that killed my reading streak! Hate that....
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Love. Languages. Are. Terrible. Period. Let it go woman.
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